FACTS ABOUT YONI(VAGINA)

To help out, I’ve compiled a list of 20 things I believe everyone should know about the vagina. While men do pee out of the penis, women do not pee out of the vagina. There are three holes and countless other sexy structures. Learn to know your anatomy. Get a hand mirror and go to town. From front to back, the urethra is the first hole, the vagina is the second, and the anus is the third. Don’t laugh! You’d be amazed how many people don’t know this. The vagina doesn’t connect to your lung. If you lose something in there, don’t worry. Reach in all the way and pull it out. Do not--I repeat, do not--go hunting for whatever you’ve lost with a pair of pliers. If you think you put something in there and you can’t find it, chances are good that it’s simply not there. Think of your vagina as being like a sock. If you lose a banana in a sock…it stays in the sock. Yes, it’s true--your vagina can fall out. Not to belabor the sock metaphor, but it can turn inside out just like a worn out sweat sock and hang between your legs as you get older. But don’t fret; this condition--called pelvic prolapse-- can be fixed. Contrary to popular mythology, there’s no such thing as being revirginized. Once you lose it, it’s gone. Just so you know. You can catch sexually transmitted diseases even if you use a condom. Sorry to break it to you, but the skin of the vulva can still touch infectious skin of the scrotum--and BAM! Warts. Herpes. Molluscum contagiosum. Pubic lice. So pick your partners carefully. The vagina is like a bicep. Use it or lose it. If you don’t have a partner, pick up a battery-operated boyfriend to help keep things healthy as you age. But don't worry--it's usually not an issue until after menopause, when fragile vaginal tissue can scar and shrink. If properly tended, your vagina will be able to pleasure you until the day you leave this life. Every vulva is different and special. Some lips hang down. Some are tucked up neatly inside. Some are long. Some are short. Some are even. Some aren’t. All are beautiful. You’re perfect just the way you are. Most women don’t have orgasms from intercourse alone. The clitoris is where the action is. Most women who do orgasm during sex have figured out how to hit their sweet spot, either from positioning or from direct stimulation of the clitoris with fingers. If you’re hunting for your G Spot, be patient. Stimulating this area usually requires more time and deeper stimulation than most people think. Try using a finger in a “come hither” motion to stimulate the front wall of the vagina, where the G spot lives. If you can’t find it, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Many can’t--and it's definitely not critical to having a fulfilling romp in the hay. How you choose to decorate is completely personal. Waxing, shaving, tattooing, piercing, or simply going au natural. It's your choice, and don't let anyone else pressure you into doing something that doesn't resonate with you. The vagina doesn’t need to be douched. As Eve Ensler says, ““My vagina doesn’t need to be cleaned up. It smells good already. Don’t try to decorate. Don’t believe him when he tells you it smells like rose petals when it’s supposed to smell like pussy. That’s what they’re doing – trying to clean it up, make it smell like bathroom spray or a garden. All those douche sprays--floral, berry, rain. I don’t want my pussy to smell like rain. All cleaned up like washing a fish after you cook it. I want to taste the fish. That’s why I ordered it.” Amen, sister. I second that. The only cancer a Pap smear screens for is cervical cancer. It doesn’t check your ovaries, your uterus, or your colon, so even if you don’t need yearly Paps, you still need to have a yearly pelvic exam. How much vaginal discharge you make varies widely. Some normal, healthy women spew loads of discharge and need to wear panty liners every day. Others are bone dry. As long as you are not at risk of STD's and you have no itching, burning, or odor, you're probably just fine. If in doubt, see your gynecologist. Menstrual blood is supposed to clot, so don’t freak out. Usually, what you think are clots are just pieces of uterine lining. As long as you’re not losing too much blood, small clots during your period need not concern you. Clots are just nature's way of keeping you from bleeding too much. Blood is supposed to clot. It's when the clots are large or you start to hemorrhage that we start to worry. Lots of vaginas need help lubing up during sex, especially as you get older. Don’t be afraid to slick on some lubricant like K-Y Jelly or Astroglide. Or try coconut oil, which is a great natural lubricant- but don't blame me if you find yourself hankering for a post-coital macaroon. Vaginal farts (some call them “queefs” or “varts”) happen to almost all women at one time or another, especially during sex or other forms of exercise. Don’t be embarrassed. You’re perfectly normal. Vaginas stretch out when you have babies vaginally. It’s natural but it can leave you feeling a bit loosey goosey. Kegel exercises that contract the muscles of the vagina really do help. To do them, practice stopping the stream of urine when you pee. There--that's the muscle! Now contract and relax it 10 X for three or more sets several times per day. Some women do ejaculate during orgasm, but you’re normal if you don’t. The controversial “female ejaculation” most likely represents two different phenomena. If it’s a small amount of milky fluid, it likely comes from the paraurethral glands inside the urethra. If it’s a cup, it’s probably pee. Many times, it may be a little bit of both. But don't stress out about peeing on yourself. Put a towel under you and surrender to the experience. Sex shouldn't hurt, but it does for many women. If you're one of those women, see your doctor. So many women are too embarrassed to say anything, so they suffer in silence. There are things we docs can do to help you. Safe sex (or even just orgasm alone) is good for you. Benefits include lowering your risk of heart disease and stroke, reducing your risk of breast cancer, bolstering your immune system, helping you sleep, making you appear more youthful, improving your fitness, regulating menstrual cycles, relieving menstrual cramps, helping with chronic pain, reducing the risk of depression, lowering stress levels, and improving self esteem. So go at it, girlfriends!

Does Vagina Size Matter?

The age-old question of whether or not size matters is typically directed at men, but this is a somewhat hidden concern for women as well. Though they might not talk about it, some women may worry about the size of their vagina and how it affects sexual pleasure, particularly after having a baby. Not a lot of research has been done in this area and because there are so many variables at play in women’s sexuality it is difficult to tell if vagina size and sexual pleasure are linked. Accommodating and Changeable The vagina is a very “elastic” organ, says Christine O’Connor, MD, director of adolescent gynecology and well women care at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore. It is small enough to hold a tampon in place, but can expand enough to pass a child through. This is because the walls of the vagina are similar to those of the stomach, they have rugae, meaning they fold together to collapse when unused, then expand when necessary. “It doesn’t stay one particular size,” O’Connor says. “It changes to accommodate whatever is going on at that time.” The most commonly used measurements regarding the size of vaginas come from Masters and Johnson’s work from the 1960s. They looked at 100 women who had never been pregnant and found that vagina lengths, unstimulated, range from 2.75 inches to about 3¼ inches. When a woman is aroused, it increased to 4.25 inches to 4.75 inches. Regardless of how long the vagina is, the area that is thought to be important for most women’s sexual response is the outer one-third. So how does length relate to sexual satisfaction? No one seems to know for sure. Tarnay says the main issues he sees women have is discomfort during sex. This typically occurs if the vagina is too short or tight or they have a prolapse, where the uterus, bladder, or other organs fall out of place, typically after childbirth. “It probably doesn’t matter,” Tarnay says. “There is such a wide range of normal, one can be completely assured that in the absence of prolapse, length has no impact on sexual satisfaction.” Muscle Tone What may make a difference, Tarnay says, is what he calls the genital hiatus -- the vaginal opening. The complaints he hears from his patients are typically after childbirth. “Women will come in describing a change in sexual function and say it feels loose and they feel less satisfied,” he says. “But just having a baby changes the sexual experience, so it may not have to do with the changes in the vaginal opening.” Muscle Tone continued... The vaginal opening likely changes only slightly after birth, Tarnay says. In 1996, doctors began using a measurement called the pelvic organ prolapse quantification system as a way of helping them see how well they were doing repairing that area after childbirth. This was the first time there was a true before-and-after measurement, Tarnay says. Doctors have used the system to look at populations of women and found that there is a slight increase in the size of the opening after vaginal deliveries. The issue may be more related to muscular weakness or injury in that area, Tarnay says. “Women who are able to contract the pelvic floor muscles can increase or decrease the size of the hiatus,” he says. “Increasing pelvic floor muscle tone can reduce looseness.” Kegel exercises can be very effective at strengthening these muscles, Tarnay says, and they may generally improve sex. A study published in the Australian & New Zealand Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology in 2008 found that women who regularly performed Kegel exercises reported greater sexual satisfaction than women who didn’t do Kegels. The problem with Kegels is that many women don’t know how to do them properly. “When I ask someone to do a bicep curl, they can do it,” he says. “But a pretty significant subset of the women who say they do Kegels, when I ask them to show me what they are doing, aren’t doing [the exercise] properly or can’t connect between the brain and those muscles.” To find the muscles you use to do Kegels, either insert a finger into the vagina and squeeze the surrounding muscles or stop the flow when urinating. After you’ve found the muscles, practice contracting them for five to 10 seconds, and then relax. If you can’t hold for that long, work your way up. Repeat the process 10 to 20 times, three times a day. While exercising, be sure to breathe normally and try not to use the muscles in your legs, stomach, or bottom. Some women sustain nerve injury during birth and can’t feel these muscles. Others just don’t use the proper technique. Tarnay says there are even physical therapists who specialize in helping women perform Kegels properly. What Really Matters Worrying about size and whether or not it changes over time is the wrong concern, O’Connor says. Factors like sufficient lubrication and arousal and a good relationship with a partner have a much greater impact on sexual enjoyment for women. A 2010 study published in the International Urogynecology Journal bears out her opinion. Researchers used medical records, an exam, and questionnaire of 500 gynecological patients aged 40 and older to see if there was a correlation between vaginal length and opening size and sexual satisfaction. The researchers found that desire, arousal, orgasm, pain, and sexual satisfaction were not linked to vagina size. Instead, the best predictors of sexual inactivity were advanced age, higher BMI, and not being in a committed relationship. “It is not an exact physical fit you are looking for in terms of sexual function,” O’Connor says. “It is more about the communication between the two partners and making sure both are getting what they need out of the experience and are comfortable.”

How does the penis go into the vagina?

The penis goes into the vagina very easily, although there are many stages so it goes in "right." When the penis goes into the vagina it must go in far enough that - if you are a virgin - it will break a small layer of tissue covering up the vagina known as the hymen. If the woman is not a virgin, the penis will slide in without any difficulties. The vagina is actually the name of the opening (or canal) in the woman's body, a natural orifice like the mouth or anus. During sexual intercourse, the male's penis is inserted into the vagina. If the penis releases ejaculatory fluids, it can result in pregnancy (the woman can conceive a baby). The ejaculated fluid is called semen, and contains the male sex cells, or sperm. If the sperm cells enter the vagina, they will attempt to fertilize an egg cell from the ovaries, which will become a fetus and eventually a baby. Note: To avoid injury or discomfort, be sure that the vagina is lubricated before intercourse. Normally bodily contact is sufficient to begin this process. If natural fluids do not provide a comfortable insertion, there are artificial lubricants (such as KY jelly). Using a Condom: It really depends on if you're using a condom, or if you're not and she is using birth control. Condoms are usually lubricated, maybe not enough, but it helps a lot and they're smoother. It also helps protect against STDs, and contains the ejaculate (which minimizes the mess). Anatomical References: The vagina itself is where the penis enters, between the labia (the outer lips or flaps). From top to bottom - "top" being nearest the belly button - there's the clitoris covered by the clitoral hood, the urethral opening (where urination occurs), and then the vaginal opening. The most important thing is to first be sure that the female is receptive and has given permission for the penis to be inserted into her vagina. That is step number one! 1. Begin by ensuring the vagina is properly lubricated, either through oral or manual stimulation or a store bought lubricant. 2. Inserting the penis into a dry vagina may cause the female a painful and unpleasant experience. 3. Proceed slowly by using the head of the penis to feel for the opening of the vagina. Do not stab at it. Be gentle. 4. Place the head of the penis into the vagina and slowly lean in to finish the insertion of the penis. The penis is now inserted and sexual intercourse can proceed. A Guys Perspective: The best way to approach this is to make sure the girl is adequately aroused. You do this through foreplay (sexual touching and caressing before intercourse.) You can also use vaginal lubricants such as Astroglide, Surgilube, or Slippery Stuff. The most common position for insertion is the Missionary position, this is when the woman is on the bottom and the two face each other. Don't rush, the first time needs to be enjoyable for you both. Now that you are sure there has been adequate foreplay and you are both ready for insertion position the tip of your penis at the opening of her vagina and gently push, the wetness and gentle pressure will guide you inside her. It is perfectly ok to look at what you are doing, or to use your hand to help, her wetness and the position of her hips make it a surprisingly easy target to hit. Go slowly, a little at a time especially if it is her first time too as it can be quite painful. Gradually work your way up to full insertion and thrusting movements once you are able to move in and out with ease and comfort. Generally, If the penis is hard enough and the vagina is wet enough you can just slide it on in. Factors that may prevent insertion would include; the penis is not erect enough, the vagina is not wet enough or lubricated, the vaginal opening is too small for insertion ( this would typically happen during the first time or few times a female had sex if her hymen has not been broken or and or the vagina has not been stretched), penis is too large (the vagina has a surprising amount of elasticity and can generally be conditioned during sex or foreplay over time to cure any discomfort) Any discomfort to the woman or man can prevent insertion. Discomfort could come from a number of variables including inexperience, injury, too much sex or foreplay, STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) etc.

Yoni puja

In short and abstract terms, a Yoni Puju can be defined as a sacred ritual during which the yoni is worshipped. This can occur by using a sacred sculpture, a painting, or a sanctified natural object as focus of veneration, or by worshipping the yoni in her living form - with the help of a woman. In any case, the worshipper engages in one-pointed meditation on, or visualization of, the thus venerated representation of the Goddess. In practical reality, however, and in the religious practice that is still very much alive in present-day India, a Yoni Puja is a much more detailed, strange (to some), intimate (to others) or hardly believable (again to others) manner of religious worship; a ritual that goes back thousands of years, yet one that is still practiced today. There are several basic subdivisions of what is called the Yoni Puja. There are inner and outer pujas, and each of these can occur in either an ordinary or a secret form. Apart from this, again, the Yoni Puja is subdivided into three categories, each of which can be indicated by one of the following terms: adoration, magic, and meditation; with the latter being the most secret one. Inner, in this context, refers to the fact that the practice is being done inside one's head, using visualization, rather than visibly in the outer, material world. Outer, of course, then refers to a visible ritual of one or more persons before an object or a woman. The latter type of Yoni Puja is often performed in mixed groups, although sometimes only women or only men may be attending. In an ordinary outer Yoni-puja, performed with a sculpture of the Devi (Skt., Goddess) or with a woman (Skt., stri) as her living representative, five liquids are poured over the Yoni. In literature, such libations are often simply interpreted as an offering to the divine, but the actual practice of a Yoni Puja shows that there is more involved than that. The five liquids, representing the five elements of Indian cosmology, are poured consecutively over the Yoni, and are collected in a vessel below the thighs. The final mixture, resulting from the five libations and empowered by such direct and intimate contact with the (living) Goddess, is then consumed by those present at the ritual. This means that once these substances have been offered to Her, She, having purified and energized them, returns the offering as a gift (Skt., prasad) to her worshippers. In this system of associations, the element Earth is represented by yogurt, the element Water by actual water, Fire by honey, Air by milk; and Ether is represented by one or another type of edible oil. Elemental symbolism, as in the example above, permeates all or most forms of worship in India. In other types of puja, different materials are used, yet with the same underlying symbolism. Any traveler to India will have seen pujas performed in which actual fire and water are used together with burning incense (smell, earth), a peacock feather (air) and a conch-shell (sound, ether) that is blown continuously amidst the sounds of many bells and cymbals. Equally, those attending a puja will usually offer five different fruits or other substances to the deity, thought to present in the sculpture; things such as milk, flower petals, rice or whatever. So we can see that the Yoni-puja, in that regard, is completely embedded in mainstream Hinduism; however special and secret it may otherwise be. In the case of a Yoni Puja practiced with an object, for example a sculpture or with a natural object such as a coco-de-mer, the energies imparted to the prasad (Skt., divine gift) depends on how well and by who the object has been consecrated and sanctified. In a Yoni Puja performed with a living women, indicated by the terms stri puja and rahasya puja, the merits of the practice depend on the type of woman who takes part. How strong the transference of power is, from the yoni via the liquid materials to the participants, is very much dependent on the woman who serves as the focus of worship. Of all stri pujas, the most simple or 'low' level worship is that of a young girl of 16; known as Kumari Puja. Although the number 16 is regarded in India as the number of perfection, and although she will first be consecrated by a priest, the girl's perfection, i.e. her nubility and beauty, does not lend her any of the powers that are possessed by a woman of higher degree. In the latter case, the woman at the center of worship is a yogini, here used as a title for an initiated woman who, as such, is also much more mature. Again, the powers transferred from her Yoni are comparatively weak when compared with those of the woman who is the channel of power in an even higher type of practice. Here, at the summit of all Yoni Pujas, the woman representing the Goddess is a true and full-fledged guru and in this case, the powers transferred from her Yoni to those who worship are most strong and most suited to raise the consciousness of those who take part in this ceremony, to those who eat or drink the mixture of liquids that have been purified and empowered by contact with her naked yoni, her flame of intelligence. Among the secret outer pujas, divided into adoration, magic and meditation types, the first two are most easy to describe. Before the visible Yoni, either of a living woman or an image of the Goddess, the worshippers offer their general prayers (adoration stage) or beg her, while chanting mantras, to grant them wishes of all kinds (magic stage), wishes that range from please cure my mother or please give me a son, to the even more egocentric let me have success in business and make me rich. So what we see here quite clearly, is the fact that there is nothing here that could possibly be classified as 'sexual' or 'obscene'. What these people do, and what has been and is being done by millions of people everywhere, is asking for a little attention from the divine for their personal sufferings, problems and ambitions. Such prayers are offered and encouraged in most religions, the only difference being that some direct such prayers to an invisible but jealous father-figure in heaven, some to a naked, bleeding and crucified man, some to his weeping mother; and again others - as in the Yoni Puja - to the source and seat of life, to the gateway that connects the inner womb of gestation with the outer reality of human life. Above, when I mentioned local or sectarian varieties as opposed to basic structure, I was referring mainly to changes in the succession of steps and actions taken. Somewhere, someone, may start with the element earth rather than ether, or enact fire before water. These differences, however, as every intelligent reader will recognize, do not really matter. What matters is the dedication and single-minded attention of the practitioner(s), combined with the attraction inherent in the object of veneration. It is this combination which enables the raising of one's awareness and which provides the potential for liberation inherent in these rituals. What is further needed, naturally, is the ability to do all of this with a deep love and respect for the specific powers of women, for the seat of life, for the Goddess. Other Tantrics, embracing and utilizing ALL manifestations of life in order to find enlightenment, often go much further. Also here, in a religion that the researchers and scholars of the early 20th century often found too 'shocking' to report honestly, the Yoni Puja is known, though in some texts we find mention of it under alternative names such as bhagayagya. Besides the obvious - that a unique and special one-pointedness can be achieved by contemplative concentration on the Yoni - it becomes clear from the Yoni Tantra and other sacred texts that the major aim of a Yoni Puja is the ritual creation of a liquid (and subtle energy) that is called yonitattva (Skt., yoni substance), or, during menstruation, yonipuspa (Skt., yoni flower). Whereas the yogini is an initiated woman specifically trained not be become sexually aroused by all the attention to her body, and especially her Yoni; in these Tantric practices the sexual energies are awakened on purpose. Here, the Yoni is not only adored and worshipped, but also stimulated and excited, sometimes even penetrated; depending on which holy scripture a specific sect follows. No mixture of yogurt, honey or oil are consumed by these worshippers. The most esoteric of Tantrics, in their most secret modes of worship, consume the juices of love produced by the woman/Goddess - or by mingling the female juices with those of the male. Two thirds of the thus generated 'divine nectar' are then mixed with wine and are drunk by the congregation; the remaining one third is offered to the Goddess. Sometimes, this type of Yoni Puja is also celebrated with a menstruating woman, producing an even more powerful liquid, known as yonipushpa (Skt., yonipuspa: flower of the Yoni). Although this is a practice forbidden by most texts and within many sects, it is specifically advocated in the above mentioned Yoni Tantra.

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